According to Earl Nightengale, and my other mentors (as I'll call them from now on), the key to fully using the power within is to find something that you want above all else, and are willing to put all your effort into getting. Your "burning desire." It's one thing to daydream about all of the different things you'd really like to have, or do, or be, but this isn't the time to be wishy-washy, or vague, or off-hand. Finding your "burning desire," takes effort, concentrated effort. In helping my husband find his burning desire, I found mine. This is how it happened:
We were on our way to a family reunion and I brought our treasure chest of cd's including "The Secret," "The Five Lessons a Millionaire Taught Me," Kevin Trudeau's cd, and "The Miracle of Believing." Because he likes to listen to books on tape while he drives, I let him finish his book and then we put "The Miracle of Believing" in the player and would play, pause, discuss, play, pause, discuss, until we finally got to the "find your burning desire" point.
The process we went through to help my husband find his burning desire is a little lengthy and detailed, but if you're struggling with the problem too, maybe you could use this as an example to find your own bd. I'll do this in a conversational way, it's easier. My questions will be bold, his reply will be in italics.
"What do you want? What do you really want more than anything else? "Time. More time to do the things I want to do." "How can you get more time?""I can rearrange my schedule, do a little more time-management." "If you choose having more time as your burning desire, how can you measure your success? If you ask for, and get more time, how can you measure it? How can you tell if or when you got it?" "I'll get more things done." "Okay, back to how you can get more time. What can you do that will give you more time--not just use the time you have more efficiently?" "I don't know." (The conversation was going nowhere. He was stuck in generalities.) "Okay, let's try this. What could you give up that would give you more time to do what you want?" (I had something specific in mind and was trying to direct him to think of it himself.). "I don't know." (This went on for a few minutes, so I decided to try a little coaching.) "I know a way you can get more time to do what you want." "How?" "Divorce me." (He looked at me like I had lost my mind.) "Seriously, divorce me. If you're not married you have more time to think of what you want to do, to do what you want to do. You don't have anyone to answer to, or to work around." "Well, I'm not going to divorce you." "Let's say you go into the "extra time" store and in order to get a box of extra time you have to give up something in exchange. What can you give up?" (Note: he's working two jobs). "I don't know." (It's really frustrating when you can see something clearly and someone else can't see it at all.) "What about giving up one of your jobs?" "That would give me more time, but we need the money." "So what you're saying is that you'd like to earn enough money to support your family on one job." "I guess so." "Can you see something about this that would be a goal big enough for a burning desire?" NOTE: to keep this from getting waaaaayyyy too long, and boring (hope it's not already), I'm going to skip to....he actually said what his core burning desire was. "I want a job that will give me more time with my family, and still bring in a good income." TA-DAA .
Nobody said this process was easy, but with a little work, and coaching, my husband just made a paradigm shift and found a little of himself in the process. Remember Bloody Mary in "South Pacific?"......"You've got to have a dream. If you don't have a dream. How you gonna make a dream come true?" And this is how, by coaching my husband, I found my own burning desire: I want to make $150,000 a year using my creativity.
Looking back I realize that whenever I wanted something really bad, and was willing to do whatever I could to get it, I got it. (Except that one guy in 6th grade.....) So I'm going to emblazen that into my mind. I'm going to print several copies of my burning desire and stick them all over my house, and in my car, and in my yard, and I'm going to keep that in the forefront of my mind. Guess I've got my work cut out for me. It's time I learned how to write down the music I've composed at the piano, and get the pieces printed off. And then I'll sit down at the piano and compose some more.
Your turn. Why don't you share with me what you've discovered as your burning desire?
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